Yea, I loved the relationships in NYC, just not the grind. Everyone was trying to "make it" everything was expensive while at the same time there is garbage juice on the street in 90º heat. I'd go see my friends shows, but never got on the list because they had to get paying customers to get invited back. Tough living, and that's not even saying anything about trying to be a cyclist in the city.
I've lived in SF for the last decade, and I really see a difference. I know it's not that much less urban than Brooklyn or Queens, but it's the zoning. I don't have a convenience store on my block, much less a pizza restaurant or salon. We have a local bar, and have a similar relationship with the folks there as we did in Brooklyn, which is nice, but again, it's hard to get to know the folks in your "commercial zoned district" because everyone is slammed together, and you don't see them every day. Even though I live three blocks away, I'm still a face on the crowd.
There's honestly a big difference between a shop on your street and a shop a few blocks away... because everyone in the neighborhood is a few blocks away.
Americans will probably never admit it but they are really bad at urban planning.
I mean... it's pretty objectively obvious. We have the right tools and expertise, it's just that our electorate can't see the walkable city past losing their free street parking for their third car.
It's always, "but I want at train to exist and not have to change anything about the way I live my life."
Funny that you were downvoted after saying that. As an American I agree with what I think you mean, but I believe Americans think they are good at urban planning because what they plan for is just different. They plan for cars and single family homes.
Well, Europe has cars and families too, so it sounds like what Americans plan for is not different, but instead they are taking into account a very limited set of requirements.