> You can't ever be real, if you are real, you are likely to be recorded doing something…
I'm real all the time. What am I missing here?
The 800lb elephant in the room about this whole idea - some people have trouble building friendships because they can't stop themselves from bringing up fringe topics with people they just met, and insisting on having conversations about them.
I think it’s mostly men just not being that interested in being friends with other men unless there is something tangible to gain. Also 1:1 friendship is hard to maintain if you don’t have a shared 3rd space. A 3rd space allowed you to maintain friendships much more time effectively.
> I think it’s mostly men just not being that interested in being friends with other men unless there is something tangible to gain.
This is particularly egregious among single men who only want connections to women.
Elephant's weigh more like 11,000lbs. I think you mean Gorilla?
Speaking of Gorillas, have you ever read the book Chimpanzee Politics? Crazy how at the end the other two chimps break into the one chimps cage and literally rip his nuts off. Crazy huh?
Oh wait... I'm doing that thing again, aren't I?
You’re missing that you’re probably not the kind of person who has the problem being outlined in the comment you’re replying to.
For what it’s worth, I remember being a closeted teenager, I remember feeling like I “couldn’t” be real - but that feeling was wrong. I just hadn’t figured that out yet at the time. It seemed too scary, too risky to be real. That’s probably one of the only pieces of advice I would have given my younger self if I could go back in time - come out sooner, come out before you’re ready, come out as bi before you know you’re gay, come out as curious/questioning before that even.
Force other people to deal with you as you are, instead of constantly working to make yourself into something that you think will be more acceptable to them. Take the risk of being real.
> What am I missing here?
"Friends" who prioritize being angry and spiteful online over their meatspace relationships, sounds like.